Our Children Are Not Different.

Could It Be That Adults Have Changed?

Intelligence is fundamentally the ability to solve problems; however, today's children often "don't do anything on their own." They might resist brushing their teeth, dressing themselves, or cleaning up after using the bathroom. What about teenagers and adults? Are only children experiencing boredom or exhibiting defiance, violence, or aggression?

While resources have increased, we seem to have sought easier ways to raise children, such as using disposable diapers, walkers, and pureed baby food.

Yet, we still lack a "generator of good habits based on values." Children learn to remove their diapers later because the necessity of washing them has diminished, leading adults to overlook the importance of teaching proper bathroom use. Furthermore, the prevailing discourse emphasizes that we must respect the child's timing. But what happens when a child doesn’t even recognize the need to use the bathroom? Regarding pureed foods, parents often allow their children to eat everything mashed, which might simplify mealtime. However, how will the child learn to chew?

With the advent of advanced technology, scientific progress, and numerous studies, it was believed that children would be healthier and happier. Instead, they are increasingly diagnosed with various disorders and experience more illnesses than before. Additionally, we have been led to believe that there is "nothing to be done," that "children are different," and that they require "a new approach to parenting." This shift in parenting has deteriorated the quality of life for many parents, leaving them stressed and reluctant to spend time at home.

Adults need to change. Raising and educating children means taking responsibility for their human development. It involves allowing them to be the protagonists of their learning journey—permitting them to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes until they achieve their goals. Teaching them that learning is inherently tied to making errors and enabling them to understand that frustration is a natural part of the process when things don’t work out on the first or second try, but rather after numerous attempts.